“What” vs. “How”

Some people mistake being overly nice as a sign of weakness. I’ve learned that the opposite is true. Sometimes it takes every ounce of strength you can muster to be nice. Being nice is an individual choice that can dramatically change your life and the life of the people you encounter along your journey.

I am living proof of the power of positivity and have seen it play out on center stage without fail throughout my life and career. Case in point, one can have a terrible experience being hired, which typically is cause for celebration. One can also have a reflective and positive experience being terminated, which usually is a traumatic experience. The difference in the outcomes of these two life-changing events is the “how.”

We live in a world where we have less control of what happens to us but complete control of how we choose to respond. Both participants usually win if they treat people like they want to be treated, as in The Golden Rule.

During trials, tribulations, and dark moments, focus on how you want to be seen and remembered when the dust settles. Because it will, and you will survive. Remember, usually it’s not the “what,” or even the “why,” but the “HOW.”